With so many people coming into Organic Church we really do need to know how to heal people. I have enclosed some of my notes that I hope you find helpful.

One of the factors that causes fragmentation of your identity – who you think and feel you are – is invalidation, which happens when you feel made wrong by another’s comments or actions. When you act according to the will of another person and suppress your own wishes, you have identified a part of yourself with the other person. You have let them into your mind, as your master. You have become fragmented. One of the main ways this comes about is through invalidation, or ‘making wrong’. If somebody says your effort was ‘not good enough’ or that you ‘shouldn’t have done that’, then you start to question yourself. You begin to introspect and ask, ‘Is there something wrong with me?’ When another person wrongly evaluates or misunderstands your communications or your state of mind, naturally this is upsetting. It means the other has not understood you. Your enthusiasm wanes. You may accept this false evaluation – perhaps because of the authority or dominance of the other person. If you ignore your own feelings and believe they must be right, you begin to follow their will, not your own. A part of you has…… continue